How to Have a Growing Lifegroup?

A couple of weeks ago I was studying and the thought came to my mind, "Rick, what is really important to you?" I stopped my study and just thought through this question. I came up with 10 things that should be the most important things in my life. The list is:
1. That my life is spent for God’s glory.
2. That my wife is blessed through my actions at home and at work.
3. That my children and grandchildren know and love Jesus Christ.
4. That people see in me a person who has been born again.
5. That I never become complacent in my expression of love for my Lord.
6. That God's Kingdom work is always a center focus of my life.
7. That the things I share from the scriptures reflect God’s intent.
8. That my actions will be used of God to draw others to Him.
9. That I will not stop being the person God desire for me to be.
10. That others will always be blessed in my actions and my words.

My last posting on how to have a growing life group was focused on the first point of how my life should always glorify God. Today I would like to share a few words on the second point. I believe that these points can be used as a guide to not only myself but will also impact the Life group as I experience them in my personal life. The second point says that I hope my life always is a blessing to my wife. Not just when I am at home but also when I am not.
I know that none of you do, but at times I am not the same person at home that I am when I am at other places. I should be the same, but I let myself go at home in ways I do not in other places. Most of it is just feeling sorry for myself so my wife will baby me, and she does because she is the perfect wife. What she should see is Rick in a way that blesses her, especially when I am at home. This is true especially for her, but how does this impact the group. Look at 1 Peter 3:8-9 with me:

1 Peter 3:8-9 Finally, all of you, have unity of spirit, sympathy, love of the brethren, a tender heart and a humble mind. 9 Do not return evil for evil or reviling for reviling; but on the contrary bless, for to this you have been called, that you may obtain a blessing.

We see in these verses that not only should I desire to bless my wife, but everyone. How do I do this? In these verses we can pull some things out that will result in me being a blessing. They are:

1. Unity of spirit (Common Mindset toward things that are Important)
2. Sympathy (Feeling What Others Feel So I can be Sensitive)
3. Love (One Translation Uses Brotherly.  That is Not being Strangers) 
4. Tender Heart (Being Kind from the Heart)
5. Humble Mind (Knowing We Are Fully Dependent on God) 

If these are characteristic of our lives, it will result in us blessing instead of returning evil to those around us.  How does this effect the spiritual growth of the group?  People who are genuinely saved have been saved for this purpose.  Therefore, as we come closer to each other, if these are not the attributes distributed in general from the group members to each other, then it means we have a serious step to take in our closeness to Christ.  We must move forward in our walk with Him.  This is a wake-up call to us not only as an individual but as a group.  Let us never be anything but a blessing to each other, and if there are temptations to do otherwise let us see our need to grow up in Him.